Fear of Missing Out

I often struggle with what I like to call a “fear of missing out.” Instead of enjoying the moment, I’m constantly wondering if I really made enough of the moment. Did I get the most out of it? Is there something more I should have taken advantage of to make this moment more meaningful? I also have been so preoccupied with the fear of missing that moment once it’s over or the desire to get to the next moment that I’ve lost the joy of today entirely. Honestly, it sounds silly to even write, but I know I’m not the only one… Because I’ve asked.

How can we conquer this? How can we get our minds off of the fear and into the moment? This is something I’m still working to accomplish. The root of it all is clearly fear. The first step for me is to, as my mom says, “get out of my head.” I’m an over planner for sure. This requires me to stop my incessant planning and just be. I’m learning in this season (or trying to learn) to just live in the moment. If you’re a planner like me, that can be very difficult. I’ll write something I’ve done on my list just to check it off. I know I’m speaking to someone on that note. While planning can be beneficial, there comes a point when we must put our plans aside and use them as a basic guideline, not as a hard fast rule for life.

Why is it detrimental to live like this? If we’re constantly¬†focused on fulfilling “the plan,” whether it be the plan for the day or our overall plan for our life, we miss out on fulfilling the little things God has for us each day. Those little moments, after all, often add up to be the big things He had for us all along. I have to daily remind myself that God is bigger than my plan. He can fulfill His purpose for my life, regardless of where I find myself today. He can use me at my work, at my church, or even at the grocery store; and He has. I’m often reminded of the biblical stories of David. If you’ve studied his life any, you are aware that there was a huge gap of time between David’s being anointed to be king and his appointing as king. There was a huge waiting period, a preparation period if you will. Secondly, let’s take a moment and think about where David was when he was anointed. He was a shepherd out in a field, not sitting in the king’s court. He wasn’t even the first or second or third choice of his father. His father didn’t even consider that God, through Samuel, would choose to anoint his son David. In his earthly father’s mind, he wasn’t enough. He didn’t fit the part. This brings my heart so much encouragement, because I often have those same fears. I often fear that I’m not in the right spot to be used. I fear that I might have made a wrong turn and now God won’t be able to find me or fulfill His purpose in me. I fear that who I am just may not be enough. I Corinthians 1:26- 29 reminds me otherwise. It states, “For consider your calling, brothers: not many of you were wise according to worldly standards, not many were powerful, not many were of noble birth. But God chose what is foolish in the world to shame the wise; God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong; God chose what is low and despised in the world, even things that are not, to bring to nothing things that are, so that no human being might boast in the presence of God.” This verse is freeing! This verse shows that we are all qualified to fulfill the will of God, because we all lack in some way. Do you feel like you may not be enough? Perfect! You can be used by God. Do you feel like you may not have your act together? Perfect! You too can be used by God. Regardless of our current state or location, God can use us. I am reminded today that I can trust God and His promises, even when I can’t see His timeline. I can enjoy and live in today, because I don’t have to fear that I’m going to miss out on His best for my today or tomorrow.



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